Don't chat too often.

Here is the English translation: You shouldn't chat with a girl you're pursuing every day because it can easily form a habit and dependence, which will affect your feelings. If the girl also has feelings for you, you'll want to meet up, and once you hold hands, you'll get carried away and want to be together. At this point, the girl will feel a lot of pressure and want to distance herself from you. When she distances herself, you'll feel hurt and miss her constantly, which will affect your work and ability to earn money. Brothers, do you understand? Chatting every day will impact your life, thinking, and ability to earn money in every aspect. If you understand this, you can leave the class. As for those brothers who are still stubbornly persistent, come closer, and let me analyze how to chat with her to get her to like you. First, we must understand that it's impossible to make someone who doesn't like you like you through daily chatting, because we're talking about a real, tangible romance, not a virtual online greeting.

Here is the English translation: Why chat?

Here is the English translation of the content: To avoid ineffective chats, I hope that you brothers can ask yourselves what the purpose of this chat is and why you want to have this chat before starting a conversation. Here I list the three most common erroneous chat purposes, and you can identify with them: First: Wanting to use high-frequency chats to cultivate the feelings between the two people. This idea is absolutely wrong, unless you have already fallen in love. If we compare the feelings between two people before a relationship to a balloon, then the chat is the air being pumped into the balloon. The more you chat every day, the more air you blow into it, and your energy will be depleted, and the other party will be frightened by the balloon being too big, and the balloon will also explode and die due to your endless output. So the real time to cultivate feelings is when you don't chat, because at this time, the other party actively thinks of you and voluntarily approaches you. Similarly, blowing and releasing the balloon will make it more elastic, and then it can become bigger and bigger. While in other times when you ask them this and that, the other party is being forced to accept your presence, and the high-frequency chats will stifle her imagination and time, and will also endlessly lower her expectations of you. The worst case is that the other party's expectation of you is that you don't chat with them, in which case no matter what you do, it will exceed her expectation, so all her feedback will become very negative, either no response, or just "en" or "oh"... So maintaining a certain sense of mystery is absolutely necessary.

1. Trying to showcase your own strengths through chatting is unnecessary. There are only three factors that determine whether one person likes another: social status, financial condition, and genes (physical appearance). If someone finds you physically attractive, they don't need you to actively present yourself, as they can simply check your social media profile. This kind of active self-promotion reveals a strong need for validation. 2. When you showcase your various skills and virtues, it suggests that you have a need for the other person to recognize and validate your so-called strengths, in order to satisfy your own self-esteem. However, what you consider as strengths may not be viewed the same way by the other person. During this process, your focus is on yourself rather than the other person's feelings. Do you think the other person will feel comfortable interacting with someone who is constantly showing off? 3. Some people don't even think about why they want to chat, but they feel uncomfortable if they don't. They use the other person's responses to chatting as a way to fulfill their need for security and alleviate their own pain. When the other person responds, they get a dopamine rush, but when the other person doesn't respond, they feel like they're going to die. This kind of chatting puts a lot of pressure on the other person, as every sentence and topic seems to be carefully considered and contrived, making the interaction feel very awkward.

The purpose of conversation is: To exchange information, express emotions, build relationships, and understand each other better.

1. Inject the motivation for the other party to continue chatting with you. No one is incapable of chatting, especially for women, as chatting is a core need for them. If they don't want to chat with you, it's not because they can't, but because they lack the motivation to continue. If you are incredibly handsome, you don't even need to say a word - just put up a profile picture on a social media app, and dozens of people will come to greet you within an afternoon. This is called the motivation to chat. So you need to provide some value to make the other person motivated to chat with you, which can be emotional value, such as being humorous and witty, or genetic value, such as being good-looking and posting it on your Moments, or even being a billionaire. 2. Lay the groundwork for a date. No matter what the online bloggers tell you, the ultimate goal is to meet up in person. What's the point of chatting with them online and getting along so well? Are you going to marry their profile picture? You still need to meet up to see if they are truly gentle and adorable, vain, or even potentially violent, right? 3. Reasonably release availability. First of all, who would want to like someone they know for sure will never like them back? Well, maybe there are some... but very few. So no matter how handsome you are, like Cheung Yan-tze or Wu Yan-zu, if you want the other person to like you and date you, you have to release your availability. You can't just come out and say "I like you" from the start. As I mentioned in my previous article, you can't tell them "No matter what you become, I'll still like you" or "Liking you is my own business, and it has nothing to do with you." Of course, if you have an endless supply of opposite-sex resources, this kind of screening is fine. As the saying goes, "The more quantity, the more you need to open up."

Here is the English translation: If there is no such thing, you should listen carefully. Next, I will give you an example. For instance, if you ask a girl what she is doing, and she replies that she just got off work and the weather is so cold and annoying, if you show concern for her and tell her to wear more, this kind of response will only make you appear as a friend. If you want her to like you and bring you closer, you should say: "Does that mean you can't wear a skirt?" This is about inserting yourself into the role of a partner in the conversation to convey availability. Between partners, there should be teasing and talking about skirts and stockings. If you're always concerned about her and ask about the weather, or even drive her directly, you'll be like a simp. Although you really care about her, the fact remains: you cannot provide her with emotional value. So we should go against the grain. Ask her, "Is it because you can't wear a skirt?" She will certainly tell you that it's because the weather is too cold and what would happen. Then, you can respond like a straight man and say, "You should wear more. I'm actually planning to buy a down jacket lately. Why don't you help me pick out a nice one?" This way, you show concern for her while also deepening the conversation, and you can even get her to help you choose clothes. I'll ask you, doesn't your wife or girlfriend need to help you pick out clothes? If you don't let her help you choose clothes, how can she become your wife?

Here is the English translation: Can you see it, brothers? This is the logic of chatting. Chatting every day without purpose is useless. Only effective dialogue that leads to an actual meetup can produce the results you want.