Here is the English translation: Changing a Timid Personality

If you, the reader of this article, usually display a timid and cowardly personality in your daily life, emotional or work situations, you must read this article carefully and watch it repeatedly. What I'm about to say may overturn your three views, but as long as you understand the core of this article, I dare to guarantee that after reading the article, you will become a person who dares to speak and act, dares to refuse, and is no longer influenced by others, with self-confidence and attitude.

Here is the translation: Why should we change

Why do timid men lack love? I once conducted a survey among different female friends in various social circles, asking what kind of men are not popular with women. At first, I thought it would be those who are not tall, handsome, rich, or successful in their careers. After all, this is what my brothers often complain about. But the reality is that when we interviewed many couples holding hands, we found that there are actually a lot of ordinary-looking men. Most of us are just regular people, and this does not affect our ability to love others or be loved in return.

Here is the English translation: I remember a young woman once said something that made a deep impression on me. She said that if someone tells you they'll wait until a certain time to start a relationship, then you can rest assured that person won't be single for a while, and they'll definitely be someone who has a hard time finding a partner. I'm not sure what experiences led her to say those words. But it made me reflect on a question - it turns out that men who are destined to be single aren't necessarily the unattractive or poor ones, but rather those who never have the chance to appear in a woman's life. Just as I often say, those who don't dare to sit at the table have already lost from the very beginning, let alone worry about winning or losing later on.

The moment slips through the window.

Here is the English translation: When we like someone, it is not as deep as we imagine. We all have a window period - a time when we especially like that person. But if I do not get positive feedback from you, I will become disillusioned and look for someone else. Similarly, every girl's youth is fleeting. They also have to consider their future and are afraid of not finding their soulmate. They wonder why no boys pursue them, why he hesitates to make a move. They also like to read inspirational content, like how guys who never initiate don't like you enough, and not to waste too much time on one person, as it is ultimately yourself who gets delayed. I want to specifically mention a certain "little fairy" platform here. Previously, a girl asked me what to do if the guy she likes says he doesn't have the ability to give her a better life right now, but will come find her when he does. My advice was to leave him. Because when we look for a partner, we are looking for someone who can go through hardships with us, not a coward who is always preparing. After entering society, the pressure and troubles will only increase for each person. You need to become someone's leader, a husband, a father, and a good child. This is a process of growth and maturity that everyone has to go through. The time people stay by your side is limited. If you can't hold on to that person, you have to be prepared to lose them forever.

Closing the door and building a car has no meaning.

Here is the English translation: The problems that arise in your relationships can only be discovered by truly experiencing love. Only those who have gone through relationships know where they fell short. You say you are not ready, and that you need to keep working on yourself, but have you ever asked the woman what kind of boyfriend she wants? What kind of life she wants to have with you? Instead, you are always trying to become the "perfect" boyfriend that you think they want - one with money, education, a house, a car, and a six-pack. Rather than preparing, you are actually avoiding, because any time you have even the slightest thought of "let me prepare first, I'm not in a hurry," you will miss that opportunity. Since entering society, your goals have been constantly changing, but the purpose has always been the same - to fill the void within yourself and make yourself like yourself a little more. "I need to get into a good university, find a good job, earn a high income, buy a house, pay off the loans, and build my own career." Your whole life has been spent on this path of filling the void, with no end in sight. You need to understand that we will never be fully satisfied with ourselves, and this is the ugliest part of human nature. And for every bride you spend millions to marry, the first time is always in a small, cheap hotel.

Here is the translation: How to Change

Here is the English translation of the content: Brothers, let's imagine a game scenario where a group of people are playing cards, and each person has two cards - one good card and one bad card. If both people play their good cards, they both win 100 dollars. If both play their bad cards, they both lose 1 dollar. If one plays their bad card and the other plays their good card, the one who played the bad card wins 500, and the one who played the good card loses 500. So, if it were you, would you often play the good card or the bad card? The answer is obvious - when a scumbag always plays the bad card and only gives good cards to the other person, it's because the cost of always being the good person is that everyone can freeload off you and ignore you. I would describe this group of people as "disposable contact lenses" - they can be discarded daily, weekly, monthly, or even half-yearly, and as soon as you're done using them, they're flushed down the drain to rot on their own. As long as they encounter one naive person, all their 500 losses can be recouped. There's a song lyric that goes, "The more you love me, the cuter I'll be," but that's complete bullshit. The most effective words are the harsh ones spoken while choking the other person's neck, and the most effective relationship is one where the other person both loves and fears you with reverence. So, I call upon all those who have been discarded and exploited - start being malicious. Whenever someone tries to freeload off you, slap them hard and tell them they're not worthy. A person must be selfish first before they can be selfless, love themselves before they can love others, and become strong within before they can help the world. The moment you notice the other person doesn't cherish you, take back what's yours. We must first wear the mask of a bad person, hold a bad card, and let everyone know we're not a good person. This way, it's impossible to exploit me, impossible to freeload off me, and I can easily eliminate 90% of the rotten people. The remaining 10% won't have any ulterior motives when approaching you, and then you can try playing your good card. Of course, even within that 10%, there may still be some cunning dogs who pretend to play good cards to get close to you, and then suddenly slam you with a bad card, leaving you caught off guard. It's like I'm suddenly reading an advertisement in the middle of my rational discourse. If you're not good at conversing, you can return to my blog's emotional column to find what you need. It's like how many girls fall head over heels for rich and handsome men, or how guys fall for beautiful and wealthy women - they start obsessively giving without restraint. But these people will quickly vanish from your sight, not showing up for 10 days or half a month, constantly playing bad cards against you. You may even start thinking it's your own fault, unworthy of their attention. And when these people eventually remember you again, they'll ask for favors like helping them move or finding connections, or even borrowing money. You'll think it's outrageous, but you'll still go running to help because they're the rich and beautiful ones, right? You may even hope to eventually change them. But some people who aren't even good-looking dare to treat you this way - in that case, don't blame others, just make sure these people disappear from your life quickly. As soon as they play a bad card, no matter how many calls, messages, or kind words they give you, politely refuse them and respond with just two words: "I'm busy." Be brave in facing and rejecting them, don't be afraid of hurting them - this is both a counterattack and self-protection. As the saying goes, "Smile too much, and you'll end up spoiling all the bad habits."

Packaging Yourself Packaging yourself is an important skill to have in today's competitive job market. It involves presenting yourself in the best possible way to potential employers or clients. Here are some tips on how to effectively package yourself: First, create a strong personal brand. Develop a clear and consistent image that reflects your unique skills, values, and accomplishments. This could include your resume, online profiles, business cards, and even your dress and body language. Second, highlight your key strengths and achievements. Identify the qualities and experiences that make you stand out, and emphasize them in your interactions. Don't be afraid to showcase your successes and demonstrate how you can add value to an organization. Third, be prepared to talk about yourself concisely and confidently. Practice your elevator pitch - a brief, compelling summary of who you are and what you have to offer. This will help you make a great first impression. Fourth, network actively and build meaningful relationships. Attend industry events, join professional associations, and connect with people who can help you achieve your goals. A strong network can open doors and create new opportunities. Finally, continuously learn and improve. Stay up-to-date with the latest trends and best practices in your field. Seek out feedback, take on new challenges, and continuously refine your packaging skills. Effective self-packaging can give you a competitive edge and help you stand out in a crowded job market. By presenting yourself in the best possible light, you can increase your chances of landing your dream job or securing that important contract.

Here is the English translation: Utilize your most effective personal social media profile in your circle of friends, package yourself a little more high-end, and use this kind of profile to get to know more outstanding people. Let the mediocre people who are holding bad cards know that their strength is insufficient, and also understand where they need to improve and where the gap is. "Your strength is given to you by yourself, and your self-confidence and image are also." And when you and the friends you admire have exchanged good cards with each other a couple of times, you will find that life is so happy, making money is so easy, and the world is so beautiful. At this time, the appearance of everyone taking off each other's masks will become more adorable. Then you will enter a kindergarten loop, because the friends who are used to playing good cards, the people around them are the same, they are all trustworthy people, and there is no need for high identification costs to open up and cooperate. Just like in a kindergarten, everyone will share toys and play together, living a simple and happy life without suspicion and framing.

Here are the key points translated into English: 1. The author has gone through countless potholes and bad products, losing a lot of money and time before summarizing these experiences. 2. The author hopes readers can apply these lessons to help their foolish friends who often get scammed. 3. In summary, before playing your good cards, you need to do two things: a) Package and improve yourself, raise your social threshold. b) Equip and cultivate yourself, become brilliant.