1. They are overly eager and desperate to pursue a relationship. 2. They try too hard to act like a gentleman and end up coming across as artificial. 3. They are overly needy and dependent on the woman's attention and affection. 4. They are impatient and rush the relationship, creating a sense of pressure. 5. They spend excessive amounts of money trying to impress the woman, which comes across as trying too hard.
The first one: real
Simply put, it means saying too many heartfelt words. Have you ever written a short essay for a girl? Whether it's between a couple with conflicts, or sincerely expressing your admiration, or apologizing for something, many brothers try to fully express their thoughts through heartfelt words, touching the other party, or explaining the reasons for doing so. However, this often only touches yourselves.
Here is the English translation: You may or may not have played little games like drawing and guessing or the telephone game. Even if you haven't played them, you should have heard of them. You will find that everyone feels they have expressed themselves very clearly, but as the game progresses, the meaning expressed becomes vastly different from the original. That is to say, when you express your sincere thoughts at length, you may think you have expressed them very clearly and unambiguously, but the other person may not necessarily understand your true intentions. In most cases, it will lead to ambiguity and misunderstanding. So, less long-winded speeches, what you think is heartfelt sincerity is just your own perception. As long as she doesn't have feelings for you, she won't think that way. Some brothers may ask, how should I express my feelings to a girl or explain a misunderstanding? Let me give you an example, and you'll understand. If I broke your leg, would you hate me? Of course you would want to break three of my legs. But what if I gave you a Ferrari as compensation? Would you still hate me? I don't think you would hate me, but rather want to hug me and call me brother. My point is very clear - much of the time, girls don't really care what you say, but rather what you do. Others prefer to see what you've done, what you've offered, what she has gained. No matter how much heartfelt confession you make, it cannot compare to a bouquet of romantic roses. No matter how grand a pie in the sky you paint, it cannot match the tangible satisfaction of a car or a house in front of her.
Gentleman
Most straight men suffer from this problem - pretending to be polite and gentlemanly. Many people try to maintain their image, being overly courteous and gentlemanly. When chatting, they're always worried that what they say might not be appropriate, or how it might affect their image. They worry about what might happen if the other person gets upset. All this consideration for the other person ultimately leads to the result of being a nice guy, but the relationship never gets very close. This is a common outcome for these kinds of "too nice" people.
Here is the English translation: The other day, my little sister went to mate her cat. The male kitten was three times the size of the female kitten. At first, the male kitten was awestruck when he saw the female, and wanted to get to know her, but he was scolded by the female. Then he cowered in the corner, shivering. He spent the whole night just huddled in the corner, watching the dominant female cat. It's the same when we pursue women. The more polite and reserved you are, the less interested she will be. The more timid and hesitant you are, the less you will gain. Think about your interactions with your superiors. When they ask you a question like "which is more important, emotional intelligence or IQ?", you get nervous, afraid of giving the wrong answer and affecting your image and promotion. So you give a vague, noncommittal answer. But you don't realize that your superior is just hoping for any answer, so they can then explain why one is more important. The more constrained and polite you are, the less your superior or the woman will feel a connection with you. They'll think you're just a tool, not a real person to interact with. Constantly being formal and courteous won't make them see you in a better light. They'll just feel distance from you and lose interest.
Thirsty
Here is the English translation of the content: Men and women's likes are different. A man's liking is a surge of hormones - they can like a woman within 0.01 seconds based on her appearance and figure. But a woman's liking is a slow process that develops gradually as they get to know each other. This difference often leads to the situation where a man may already be thinking about marriage and starting a family, even before the woman has developed any feelings for him. This mismatch in emotions can cause the man's energy and needs to become too intense, leading to an imbalance. Humans are strange creatures - the harder something is to obtain, the more we crave it, but the easier and more freely available something is, the more we tend to reject it. For example, long queues form at popular bubble tea shops, while free samples on the street are often declined. This human nature means that if your "thirsty" behavior conveys low value and a lack of romantic options, you will be mercilessly passed over, as no one wants something that others have rejected. If you want to change this and learn to adjust your mindset, communicate properly, and express yourself appropriately, you can continue reading other articles on the iWSheng homepage.
The fourth one: urgent
Here is the English translation: Eager to showcase themselves, male students with little dating experience often have an incorrect mindset about relationships. They think that as long as they like a girl, they should be completely honest with her. So whenever they chat with the girl, these male students automatically switch to "honesty mode", spilling out every detail about themselves without restraint. Even if the girl only replies with a few words, they can't wait to display themselves from every angle, wishing they could immediately start writing an autobiography to give to the girl, listing out all their life advantages - a few cars, a few houses, Tsinghua or Peking University. They think this is the way to quickly attract the girl. But the truth is, if they continue down this path, the girl will lose interest in them in just a few days. There is a key issue that many guys tend to overlook - the need for mystery. Most people don't like having TV shows or movies spoiled for them. As long as the plotline's suspense hasn't been revealed, it can keep people hooked. Relationships also require a sense of mystery. If you expose too much about yourself in front of the girl, your sense of mystery will be completely lost. The girl will have no desire to continue understanding you further. In her eyes, you'll be like a blank sheet of paper - how could you possibly attract her then?
The Last One: Krypton Krypton is the home planet of Superman, the iconic superhero. Located in a distant solar system, it was a highly advanced civilization that was eventually destroyed. This tragic fate, combined with the planet's mysterious and otherworldly nature, has captivated audiences for decades. Despite its ultimate destruction, Krypton left a lasting legacy through the birth and upbringing of Kal-El, who would later become known as Superman. The unique characteristics and rich culture of this lost world have been explored extensively in various Superman stories, adding depth and complexity to the character's origin and motivations. Krypton's demise has also served as a poignant metaphor, highlighting the fragility of even the most advanced civilizations and the importance of protecting the environment and natural resources. This cautionary tale resonates with readers and viewers, underscoring the enduring appeal and relevance of the Superman mythos.
Here is the English translation: Trying to buy a girl's love with money is an idea that many brothers have these days. They think that if they have money, they can get the girl, and when they are driving a Ferrari, girls will flock to them. In fact, this is because we have been deeply influenced by society. The current social values are that if you have money, girls will chase after you, but this is actually incorrect. Money can indeed get you a girl's body, but it cannot buy her heart. The girls you can buy with money will abandon you mercilessly when you have no more money. The most valuable things in this world, such as family affection, friendship, and love, cannot be bought with money. Not all girls are so mercenary. Sometimes, girls are with you not because of your money, but because they genuinely like you as a person. If they like you, even if you don't have much money, they will be happy to be with you. They may not dare to ask you for expensive bags or gifts, as they are afraid you will think they are materialistic. Therefore, you should be your true self, and use your inner qualities to attract girls, instead of trying to seek love through spending money.
Here is the English translation: Alright, brothers, I hope you understand that pursuing love cannot be done solely on the basis of a passionate heart and reckless actions. A healthy relationship is built on the foundation of mutual equality. Your cheap behaviors will not change a woman's impression of you. It's easy to tell the difference between true sincerity and a clown. It all comes down to whether you still consider yourself a person. Love yourself first, and only with an equal attitude can you attain an equal relationship. Love all you want, but don't be servile or humble. Even in small matters, maintain your dignity. You can do a lot for love, even sacrifice for it, but remember that sacrifice is noble and glorious, not lowly.
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