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再见，中国（第三章）-iWSheng Blog

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Goodbye, China (Chapter 3)

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再见，中国（第二章）-iWSheng Blog

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Farewell, China (Chapter 2) The following is the English translation of Chapter 2: When I was not yet 30 years old, I left China and immigrated to a country that was thousands of miles away. I had always wanted to get out of the restrictive environment I grew up in, and fulfill my dream of living abroad and experiencing a different culture. After leaving China, I felt like I had escaped from a cage. I could finally breathe freely and no longer had to worry about the endless rules and regulations. The first few years were filled with excitement and a sense of liberation. Everything was new and stimulating - the language, the food, the people, the lifestyle. It was like being reborn. However, as time passed, I began to miss certain aspects of my life in China. I missed the bustling energy of the cities, the delicious local cuisine, the close-knit family bonds, and the familiarity of my native language and customs. I found myself frequently comparing my new life to my old one, trying to weigh the pros and cons. There were times when I felt lost and isolated in the foreign country. Despite my efforts to integrate, I still struggled with the language and cultural differences. I often felt like an outsider, unable to fully understand or be understood by the local people. The sense of belonging I once had in China was now replaced by a feeling of rootlessness. I also realized that no matter how long I lived abroad, a part of me would always remain Chinese. My cultural identity was deeply ingrained and could not be easily shed. Even as I adopted new habits and ways of thinking, there were certain core values and perspectives that I held onto stubbornly. As the years went by, I began to appreciate China in a new light. I developed a deeper understanding and respect for the country's history, traditions, and societal norms - things that I had previously taken for granted or even rebelled against. In a sense, my time away from China had allowed me to view it with a fresh perspective, free from the biases and limitations of my upbringing. Occasionally, I would find myself longing to return to China, to reconnect with my roots and the people I left behind. The decision to leave had not been an easy one, and I often wondered if I had made the right choice. The pull of my homeland was strong, and I struggled with the idea of potentially going back. As I continue to navigate the complexities of living between two vastly different cultures, I realize that my relationship with China is ever-evolving. It is a dance of attachment and detachment, of familiarity and foreignness. I may never fully reconcile the two sides of my identity, but I am learning to embrace the duality and find a sense of balance within it.

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再见，中国。-iWSheng Blog

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Goodbye, China.

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爱情观与责任-iWSheng Blog

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Love Outlook and Responsibility 爱情是人生一个很重要的部分,一个人如何看待和对待爱情,在很大程度上决定了他的生活品质。从个人角度来说,恋爱和婚姻关系是追求幸福、自我实现的重要途径。从社会角度来看,健康的爱情关系和家庭关系是社会和谐稳定的基础。所以,树立正确的爱情观,承担起应尽的责任,对于个人和社会来说都很重要。正确的爱情观应当既关注个人心理需求的满足,又不忽视社会责任。一个人要学会独立自主,既要有自己的人生追求,也要懂得关爱他人,为家庭和社会做贡献。

在这个快餐式爱情盛行的时代，我依然坚守着一种看似传统却深深扎根于心的信念：一个人只能和一个人暖昧，一个人就是不能吃两个人的菜。谈恋爱是为了结婚，是一份沉甸甸的责任，而不仅仅是短暂的...

碎碎念 # 爱情观 # 责任

iWSheng2年前

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理解-iWSheng Blog

Understanding.

你的妈妈，她可能表现得强势，或许显得柔弱，有时候甚至显得不讲理。但无论她与你相处了多久，不完全理解你其实是很正常的。想想看，她的一生大多数时间都是在她自己的社会阶层中度过的，她没有...

碎碎念 # 感恩 # 理解

iWSheng2年前

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改变懦弱性格-iWSheng Blog

Changing a Weak Personality

如果正在阅读这篇文章的你在平时生活情感或者工作当中总是表现出来又怂又懦弱的性格，你一定要认真看完这条文章，并且反复观看，接下来要说的可能会颠覆你的三观，但是只要你理解了我这个文章...

情感 # 缺乏自信

iWSheng2年前

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恋爱中的五大“小丑行为”-iWSheng Blog

The Five "Clownish Behaviors" in Romantic Relationships

女人眼中的五大小丑行为，你知道男生是如何一步步化为小丑的吗？就是因为做了以下5个行为：真、绅、渴、急、氪，尤其是第五个行为可以直接判定为哥谭最强小丑，希望兄弟们看完之后再也不要走上...

情感 # 缺乏自信 # 舔狗 # 小丑

iWSheng2年前

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女生不爱回消息，还要继续聊吗？-iWSheng Blog

Should I continue chatting with a girl who doesn't respond to my messages?

前言给兄弟们一条忠告，不管是谁，如果你给她发了一条需要她回应的消息，但是却石沉大海，那就永远不要发第二条。很多兄弟追求女生的时候应该都遇到过这种情况，给女生一连发了好几条消息，但...

情感 # 缺乏自信 # 情绪价值 # 舔狗

iWSheng2年前

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情绪价值-iWSheng Blog

Emotional value

怎样把一个女生从不喜欢你，聊到喜欢你，很多兄弟可能不明白，只要靠聊天就能让一个女生爱上你，甚至是对你上瘾，方法其实很简单，给对方提供情绪价值，那究竟什么是情绪价值，又该怎样给予情绪...

情感 # 情绪价值

iWSheng2年前

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缺爱型人格-iWSheng Blog

Attachment-deficient Personality People with attachment-deficient personality often have the following characteristics: 1. Lack of close interpersonal relationships and difficulties in establishing intimate relationships. They find it difficult to trust others and are prone to suspiciousness and guardedness in relationships. 2. Emotional indifference or detachment. They have difficulty expressing and experiencing emotions, and appear cold and aloof in interactions. 3. Self-centeredness and lack of empathy. They have a strong sense of self-importance and tend to be insensitive to the needs and feelings of others. 4. Difficulty in regulating emotions. They may experience sudden mood swings and have problems controlling impulsive behaviors. 5. Unstable self-image and poor self-esteem. They often have an unclear sense of identity and tend to have low self-worth. This type of personality disorder is usually rooted in childhood experiences of neglect, abuse, or lack of affection from primary caregivers. Addressing the underlying attachment issues is crucial for improving interpersonal functioning and emotional well-being.

我最近在研究缺爱型人格的深层次原因与影响时，发现这种人格特征不仅仅局限于对爱情的渴望，更是一种深刻的内心状态，源于个体成长过程中的经历与心理发展的偏差。缺爱者，尤其是一些男性的行为...

情感 # 缺乏自信 # 爱情观 # 缺爱

iWSheng2年前

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条件交换的爱情-iWSheng Blog

Love based on conditional exchange

爱情这东西，说得高尚一点叫灵魂契合，说得通透一点就是条件匹配，说得难听一点嘛，不过是利益交换而已。年轻人总喜欢假装自己追求的是纯粹，动不动就说要“嫁给爱情”，可惜世道早就把他们的脸...

情感 # 爱情观 # 小红书

iWSheng4个月前

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中国式“鸡娃”-iWSheng Blog

The "Chicken Parenting" Phenomenon in China

交易和攀比的游戏最近几年，'鸡娃'这个词火得不行。说白了，就是家长们疯狂给孩子报班、补课、搞各种培训。我理解每个父母都希望孩子有出息，但现在这股风气已经完全跑偏了。你去看看周围那些...

碎碎念 # 鸡娃 # 中国式家长

iWSheng4个月前

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GTA4汉化优化教程（养老版）-iWSheng Blog

Here is the English translation: GTA4 Chinese Localization and Optimization Tutorial (Retirement Edition)

前言《侠盗猎车手4》（Grand Theft Auto IV），是Rockstar Games游戏公司发行的一款围绕犯罪为主题的开放式动作冒险游戏。游戏于2008年4月29日登陆PlayStation 3和Xbox 360平台，于2008年12月2...

折腾记录 # GTA4 # 游戏

iWSheng2年前

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自我感动？-iWSheng Blog

Self-moved.

在我们的青春岁月里，我们常常用一种几乎自虐的姿态，营造出一种痴情的假象，企图在爱情的战场上占据道德的高地。我们追求的是一种畸形的满足感和安全感，而这种追求往往使我们陷入一种错觉——...

碎碎念 # 内耗 # 自我感动

iWSheng2年前

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